<font size=2 face="sans-serif">Hi there, </font>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">This in no way reflects the view of
my employer, though I'd be willing to bet that many of our judges know
and employ this -- I'd like to add something I've been learning lately
-- and that is about how we communicate to each other. Active listening
and non-violent communication (NVC) are tools that go a long way towards
being heard and hearing someone else. They are great tools for creating
understanding and finding solutions to problems.<br>
<br>
>From what I've learned about observable vs. un-observable things, I believe
"diversity" is something that is objective and can be measured,
but that "racist", rather, is an example of an word that is often
used to accuse someone of something, but it can also refer to a policy
or reality. It is a charged word.</font>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">"Silly", "not authentic"
-- those are words that can actually be (or sound -- only the speaker knows
for sure) dismissive of someone else's feelings or what is important to
them -- according to what I have been learning. They are not likely
to lead to agreement and problem solving.</font>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">This issue (diversity; I experience
racism and I hate it, I fervently want to change racism) can be discussed
in a non-judgmental and objective way. Whether it has merit or not
for this forum I have no idea since I am a newcomer. Perhaps there
are guidelines for use posted somewhere. I'm impressed with efforts
to keep the discussion responsible, non-judgmental and non-personal.<br>
<br>
Again, sometimes it can be thought that a topic is being shut down, and
then what really what is going on is there is "violent communication"
going on (I think that is kind of a weird term, but for lack of a better
one) -- and that is what people want to shut down, not the topic. BUT
the answer is not to shut down "violent communication" either
-- instead it is to respond to it skillfully -- in a way that leads to
understanding and problem-solving. This takes skill. Why don't
we study these skills as much as we study our "professional"
skills?</font>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">NVC can be clunky to use -- it take
practice to use it in real life, but it's precepts are worthwhile in any
conversation -- particularly emotional ones. </font><a href=http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/aboutnvc/4partprocess.htm><font size=2 face="sans-serif">http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/aboutnvc/4partprocess.htm</font></a>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">Some active listening suggestions: </font><a href=http://www.studygs.net/listening.htm><font size=2 face="sans-serif">http://www.studygs.net/listening.htm</font></a>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">I hope this was useful to someone.</font>
<br>
<br><font size=2 face="sans-serif">
</font>
<table border>
<tr valign=top>
<td colspan=4 bgcolor=white><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="Arial"> </font>
<tr>
<td bgcolor=white valign=top><img src=cid:_2_0AB97DA80AB97B3C006B549288257CF4>
<td bgcolor=white><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="Arial"> </font>
<td bgcolor=white><font size=2 color=#5f5f5f face="Calibri"><b>Julia Sathler
</b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#5f5f5f face="Calibri"><b>Assistant Librarian,<br>
Portland Branch</b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#5f5f5f face="Calibri"><b>Ninth Circuit Libraries</b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#5f5f5f face="Calibri"><b>1000 SW Third Ave. 7A40<br>
Portland, OR 97204<br>
library: 503.326.8140<br>
direct: 503.326.8147</b></font>
<td bgcolor=white><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="Arial"> </font></table>
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">From:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">HARMON-MYERS Margaret
<Margaret.HarmonMyers@ci.eugene.or.us></font>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">To:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">'Shannon Van Kirk'
<SVanKirk@bluecc.edu>, 'Mark KILLE' <markk@multco.us></font>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">Cc:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">"libs-or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us"
<libs-or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us></font>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">Date:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">06/11/2014 11:59 AM</font>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">Subject:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">Re: [Libs-Or]
A poem for the occasion</font>
<br><font size=1 color=#5f5f5f face="sans-serif">Sent by:
</font><font size=1 face="sans-serif">"Libs-Or"
<libs-or-bounces@listsmart.osl.state.or.us></font>
<br>
<hr noshade>
<br>
<br>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Respectfully, it seems the
focus was sidetracked by the silly poem, which I do not see as having anything
to do with the original discussion, and seemed to make light of a very
serious and authentic issue. Let’s put that aside and continue with
a worthy topic of discussion – one that is not talked about enough, respectfully
and openly, among our peers; isn’t this the best place for it?
I want it to be shared with the larger group, those who prefer not to participate
can simply delete, once they see the subject line. I delete many
emails on this listserv that are not of interest to me and don’t see that
as a burden; someone who has not been in on the conversation initially
may see this subject and want to join the conversation and I want them
to have that opportunity!</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">I do think the subject line
needs to be updated to reflect the discussion.</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">I appreciate the insights
I gain from all of you, and am grateful for this forum.</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Sincerely,</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Margaret E. Harmon-Myers</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Adult Reference Services</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Eugene Public Library</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">100 West 10th Ave.</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Eugene, OR 97401</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">541-682-6616</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">margaret.harmonmyers@ci.eugene.or.us</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 face="Tahoma"><b>From:</b> Libs-Or [</font><a href="mailto:libs-or-bounces@listsmart.osl.state.or.us"><font size=2 face="Tahoma">mailto:libs-or-bounces@listsmart.osl.state.or.us</font></a><font size=2 face="Tahoma">]
<b>On Behalf Of </b>Shannon Van Kirk<b><br>
Sent:</b> Wednesday, June 11, 2014 7:46 AM<b><br>
To:</b> 'Mark KILLE'<b><br>
Cc:</b> libs-or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us<b><br>
Subject:</b> Re: [Libs-Or] A poem for the occasion</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">While understanding the issues,
I make the following plea:</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Because this has degenerated
to the point where people are being (perhaps inadvertently) offensive to
others, inappropriate folderol is being disseminated, and apologies
are being generated, I suggest it is time to take this discussion off list
(for those who wish to continue it.</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">I am on no way suggesting
that it is an unworthy topic, but my inbox was FULL of little else this
morning. </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Yes, I know how to use my
delete key, but at this point, perhaps the point has been made?</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Just a thought…..</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">Shannon Van Kirk, Director</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">Blue Mountain Community College
Library</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">Pendleton, OR 97801</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">Voice: (541) 278-5916</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">FAX: (541) 276-6119</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana"><</font><a href=mailto:shannon.vankirk@bluecc.edu><font size=2 color=blue face="Verdana"><u>shannon.vankirk@bluecc.edu</u></font></a><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Verdana">></font>
<br><font size=3 color=#004080 face="Verdana"> </font>
<br><font size=1 face="Century Schoolbook">IMPORTANT NOTICE: This
communication, including any attachment, contains information that may
be confidential or privileged, and is intended solely for the entity or
individual to whom it is addressed. If you are not the intended recipient,
you should delete this message and are hereby notified that any disclosure,
copying, or distribution of this message is strictly prohibited. Nothing
in this email, including any attachment, is intended to be a legally binding
signature.</font>
<br><font size=1 color=#004080 face="Comic Sans MS"><i>Blue Mountain Community
College is an Equal Opportunity Employer</i></font>
<br><font size=1 face="Century Schoolbook"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 face="Calibri"><b>From:</b> Libs-Or [</font><a href="mailto:libs-or-bounces@listsmart.osl.state.or.us"><font size=2 color=blue face="Calibri"><u>mailto:libs-or-bounces@listsmart.osl.state.or.us</u></font></a><font size=2 face="Calibri">]
<b>On Behalf Of </b>Mark KILLE<b><br>
Sent:</b> Tuesday, June 10, 2014 12:30 PM<b><br>
Cc:</b> </font><a href="mailto:libs-or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us"><font size=2 color=blue face="Calibri"><u>libs-or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us</u></font></a><font size=2 face="Calibri"><b><br>
Subject:</b> Re: [Libs-Or] A poem for the occasion</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">I have my own reservations about,
basically, using critical race theory (</font><a href="http://spacrs.wordpress.com/what-is-critical-race-theory/"><font size=3 color=blue face="Times New Roman"><u>http://spacrs.wordpress.com/what-is-critical-race-theory/</u></font></a><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">)
as a deciding factor when evaluating solutions for essential daily library
functions. But it's a jerk move to make fun of people who have it incorporated
into their professional values. It's certainly a valid way of approaching
the Library Bill of Rights' (</font><a href=http://www.ala.org/advocacy/intfreedom/librarybill><font size=3 color=blue face="Times New Roman"><u>http://www.ala.org/advocacy/intfreedom/librarybill</u></font></a><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">)
insistence that libraries exist to serve *</font><font size=2 color=#2f2f2f face="Arial">all
people of the community*. In any case, dismissing it as unworthy of engagement--as
nothing more than a joke--just supports its most basic claims.</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">Best,</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">Mark</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">-- </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">Mark Kille</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">Library Assistant (Information
Services)</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">Multnomah County Library (Hillsdale)</font>
<br><a href=mailto:markk@multco.us target=_blank><font size=3 color=blue face="Times New Roman"><u>markk@multco.us</u></font></a>
<br><font size=1 face="Arial">503-988-5388</font>
<br><a href=http://multcolib.org/ target=_blank><font size=3 color=blue face="Times New Roman"><u>multcolib.org</u></font></a>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">On Tue, Jun 10, 2014 at 10:20 AM,
Linda Church <</font><a href="mailto:lchurch@cu-portland.edu" target=_blank><font size=3 color=blue face="Times New Roman"><u>lchurch@cu-portland.edu</u></font></a><font size=3 face="Times New Roman">>
wrote:</font>
<br><a name=14686cbc510a68f4__MailEndCompose></a><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri">Thanks
for adding a little levity to the situation – definitely needed.</font>
<br><font size=2 color=#004080 face="Calibri"> </font>
<br><font size=2 color=#002060 face="Arial"><b>Linda Church</b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#000080 face="Arial"><b> </b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Georgia"><i>Director, Art & Culture
Program</i></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#002060 face="Georgia"><b>Concordia University Libraries</b></font>
<br><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial"><b>t</b> </font><a href="tel:503-493-6370" target=_blank><font size=2 color=blue face="Arial"><u>503-493-6370</u></font></a><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial">
<b>f</b> </font><a href="tel:503-280-8697" target=_blank><font size=2 color=blue face="Arial"><u>503-280-8697</u></font></a>
<br><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial">2811 NE Holman Street
Portland, OR 97211</font>
<br><a href="http://www.cu-portland.edu/" target=_blank><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial"><u>www.cu-portland.edu</u></font></a>
<br><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial"> </font>
<br><img src=cid:_2_0AB580140AB57DA8006B549288257CF4 alt="GRWLLC Email Header_091208 (2)">
<br><font size=2 color=#808080 face="Arial"> </font>
<br><font size=2 face="Tahoma"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><br>
</font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font>
<br><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"> </font><tt><font size=2>_____________________________________________________<br>
Libs-Or mailing list<br>
Libs-Or@listsmart.osl.state.or.us<br>
</font></tt><a href="http://listsmart.osl.state.or.us/mailman/listinfo/libs-or"><tt><font size=2>http://listsmart.osl.state.or.us/mailman/listinfo/libs-or</font></tt></a><tt><font size=2><br>
Hosted by the Oregon State Library. The Library is not responsible for
content.<br>
Questions related to message content should be directed to list owner(s)
or the sender of the message, by phone or email.<br>
Technical questions? Call 503-378-8800.<br>
</font></tt>
<br>