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<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>Karla,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>It's too bad, you didn't think of this first to write to tell people about, loving kindness, while Kevin was with us! </FONT></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>Now it's too late to be kind to him. {Only to Shirlee} </FONT><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>Some of the or-roots members really stressed him out. He was trying very hard to unsubscribe,</FONT><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2> but some.. just made fun of him... some were cruel and rude. He told me that himself. They just wouldn't back off and let him unsubscribe, he was stressed out and Stress can kill..</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>Why didn't someone<FONT size=3> <FONT face="Monotype Corsiva"> <FONT face=Arial size=2>"pray to the Lord to help and guide him to unsubscribe"..?</FONT> </FONT></FONT>as he was trying desperately to do?</FONT></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>WHERE, was the loving kindness when he was alive? He was a fellow Oregonian like us. </FONT><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>It's too easy now, to say the things, you have wrote about, He is gone! </FONT><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2> Some of the members, would like to ease there conscious, </FONT><FONT face="Georgia Ref" size=2>as they know they really were way too hard on him. Like you wrote "Life is too short" Nancy</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><B>From:</B></I> <A href="mailto:or-roots@sosinet.sos.state.or.us">or-roots@sosinet.sos.state.or.us</A></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><B>Date:</B></I> 07/31/04 22:08:00</DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><B>To:</B></I> <A href="mailto:or-roots@sosinet.sos.state.or.us">or-roots@sosinet.sos.state.or.us</A></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt" <i><B>Subject:</B></I> Re: [or-roots] Family tragedy</DIV></DIV>
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<DIV>Hey, calm down everybody.</DIV>
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<DIV>Listen, it is too bad about Kevin. But as far as putting his name and</DIV>
<DIV>address, and phone number on the Internet, it was</DIV>
<DIV>there to be had even before the brouhaha got started. All you have to do</DIV>
<DIV>is to go to infospace.com, and type in his</DIV>
<DIV>name, and then Bend Oregon and his address pops up. I did this, and</DIV>
<DIV>cross checked with Shirlee's name and the</DIV>
<DIV>address and phone number are the same. I was thinking about sending her</DIV>
<DIV>a condolence card.</DIV>
<DIV>Whomever was sending those emails to the list, was incredibly rude, no</DIV>
<DIV>matter who it was. If he/she could have made</DIV>
<DIV>a decent polite request, instead of all of the name bashing, we might</DIV>
<DIV>have been more tolerant. But, to be out and out</DIV>
<DIV>rude and make demands and call people names doesn't sound fair. And it</DIV>
<DIV>isn't to be tolerated.</DIV>
<DIV>Any list owner would have unsubbed one of the list members for that kind</DIV>
<DIV>of behavior and language. I am on a lot</DIV>
<DIV>of email lists/groups through Yahoogroups, and other entities, and</DIV>
<DIV>"flaming" as it is called, just isn't tolerated.</DIV>
<DIV>I am sorry that Kevin has passed on. And maybe it wasn't Kevin, maybe it</DIV>
<DIV>could have been one of his sibs, or his</DIV>
<DIV>kids (if they have any) or just and insensitive clod of a neighbor. It</DIV>
<DIV>could have been anybody.</DIV>
<DIV>I don't like rudeness on anybody's part. I am 57 years old, and come</DIV>
<DIV>from the old school, that if you want to be</DIV>
<DIV>treated with respect, then you treat others the same way. And no matter</DIV>
<DIV>what the age, there just isn't any excuse</DIV>
<DIV>for rudeness. None whatsoever. I put up with a lot of stuff from my 20</DIV>
<DIV>year old, that I shouldn't. Sometimes he</DIV>
<DIV>is just teasing and other times he is disrespectful. If I had my way, I</DIV>
<DIV>would kick his sorry behind out of here, and let</DIV>
<DIV>him fend for himself. But dad says no.</DIV>
<DIV>Someone said the list mom was on vacation. And this message was imparted</DIV>
<DIV>to Kevin. Kevin, himself said he had</DIV>
<DIV>blocked receiving messages from the list, and that should have been</DIV>
<DIV>sufficient until the list mom was available to take</DIV>
<DIV>care of unsubbing him. But, I don't understand why he couldn't have</DIV>
<DIV>unsubbed himself, but be that as it may.</DIV>
<DIV>Life is just too short to be carrying grudges. We have to let the thing</DIV>
<DIV>go and just remember the tragedy that happened</DIV>
<DIV>to Shirlee and the family. And we need to pray the Lord will give her</DIV>
<DIV>the strength to carry on. It is hard losing someone</DIV>
<DIV>you love.</DIV>
<DIV>Well, I have said my piece. So, please everyone, don't carry grudges.</DIV>
<DIV>You are a very sweet bunch of people, and seem</DIV>
<DIV>to be very caring of each other. Let's extend that caring to Shirlee and</DIV>
<DIV>her family. They have lost a husband, father, brother,</DIV>
<DIV>uncle and nephew. So, we need to remember he was a human being and that</DIV>
<DIV>someone, somewhere loved him. And that</DIV>
<DIV>my friends, will make us all feel better.</DIV>
<DIV>So, we are all adults here and we need to settle down and act like the</DIV>
<DIV>mature beings I know we are. So let's all just have a</DIV>
<DIV>good nights sleep and wake up tomorrow with a song on our lips and a</DIV>
<DIV>prayer in our hearts, and be thankful for what we have.</DIV>
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<DIV>Sincerely,</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Karla Williams</DIV>
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<DIV>PS. Hope I didn't step on any toes here</DIV></TD></TR>
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