[or-roots] sick sense of humor!

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d'accord


--
Bob Goodman 
USAF Retired 
University Place, Washington


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> Hi listmates, 
> 
> We cannot undo what has happened in the passed few days. But, what we 
> can do, is to be kind 
> to one another. Some of us, including myself, emailed Kevin. I tried to 
> be nice to him, and was not 
> rude, just like I haven't been rude to anyone else here, yet. 
> But, you know we are all supposed to be responsible mature adults here. 
> This is a genealogy list, and as such, 
> devoted to research out our antecedents. But, with all of the bickering 
> going on here, it is more like the WWE. 
> Now, I think all of you who are fighting like little children, need to go 
> and stand in your respective corners, and 
> stay there until you think about all of the unkindness and unhappiness 
> you are causing each other and the rest of us. 
> And when you have reached a sound mature decision, and I am hoping you 
> come to the conclusion that no one is 
> right, and you are genuinely sorry for hurting each other, then you can 
> come out of your corners, shake hands and say 
> you are sorry. 
> If you don't do this, I am afraid I am going to have to send you to the 
> principal's office for an old fashioned whupping. 
> That is what this is coming to. 
> I am in a humerous way, trying to get you guys to settle down. Everyone 
> on this list, with the exception of the ones that 
> have remained neutral, is as equally guilty of saying things to Kevin. 
> BUT, we cannot change nor undo what has been said. 
> What we all can do, is to APOLOGIZE to each other, and I mean right now, 
> and come out of this as friends as before. 
> We all are feeling badly about what happened to Kevin. Now, we can't 
> change that fact, that he is gone. But, we can 
> be a little kinder to each other, and maybe, in the process of thinking 
> rationally about this situation, we could try to be kinder 
> to his widow. She doesn't deserve the tongue lashing that is going on 
> here, and neither do the rest of us. 
> So, wise up, and grow up. OK? When the list mom gets back from where 
> ever she went, she is probably going to be very 
> disappointed in all of us for the way we handled this situation. 
> So, let's give poor Kevin a chance to rest in piece, and we need to start 
> delving into the past ages, to find our elusive 
> relatives. 
> Speaking of which, I have a story to tell. My birth name is Karla Gray, 
> and I was born in The Dalles Oregon to Marion 
> Frederick Gray, and Jessie Marie Yohey Gray, in December of 1946. My 
> father was born in Friend Oregon to Jesse Marion 
> Gray, and Emma Freda Gertrude Miller Gray on September 1, 1920. My 
> grandfather was born in Friend or The Dalles, on January 18 
> , I think the year was 1883 or so, to James Jackson Gray, and Susan 
> Permelier Gray (her maiden name just flew out of my mind). 
> James Jackson Gray was born in or near Nashville Tennessee, in 1843 or 
> so. 
> The story goes this way: James Jackson was around 15-17 years old when 
> the Civil War broke out. His father was a school 
> teacher, and also owned a race horse farm. Just prior to the break out of 
> the Civil War, the father had purchased a stud for $1,000.00, 
> which was a considerable sum back then. When the War broke out, the 
> father and older brothers decided to go off to war, leaving 
> young James Jackson at home in charge of the horse farm. They joined the 
> Federalist forces. 
> But, James Jackson was young, and as such, evidentally prone to being 
> hotheaded (which decidedly runs in the family), was 
> quite put out that the father and brothers had gone off to war, leaving 
> him at home. So, he decided to leave also. He took the 
> stud and off he went. He joined the first army outfit he came to, which 
> unfortunately, was the Confederate Army. The horse 
> was shot and killed in an ensuing battle. 
> James Jackson served his 4 years of service duty and was duly discharged 
> from the Army. He was relunctant to go back home, 
> so lit out to come west. He worked his way out here, hoping to recoop 
> enough money to repay his father for the stud that had been 
> killed. 
> Well, I guess he never was able to get the money together. He came to 
> Oregon, somewhere along the line, met up with my great 
> grandmother, and made her his wife. They had 10 kids. 
> Now, James Jackson was a very tight lipped individual. Never, never, 
> ever, did he tell his children, or grandchildren any information 
> about the family he left in Tennessee. So, all we know is what I just 
> told you. There have been several individuals in the family, and one 
> on my mother's side, doing lots of research, trying to find anything on 
> the family he left behind. 
> Outside of going back to Tennessee, and doing research back there, what 
> are we to do? My niece wrote for and got his Army 
> records and he told them he was James Jackson Gray. But, I am beginning 
> to think, the old rascal was a scoundrel and a consumate 
> liar. I don't think his surname was Gray. I don't know what else to 
> think. We have all hit a brickwall. 
> Do, any of you have any suggestions? I have researched out the Census I 
> think for 1880 or 1890, and found them. At that time, 
> it was just his wife and 9 months old baby daughter, Louisa. They had 
> had an earlier child, but that baby died from diptheria before 
> reaching a year old. 
> So, if any of you people, who have a more vast knowledge than I have, 
> have any kind of suggestions, I would appreciate you bouncing 
> them off of me. For now, I just want to make this one statement, I don't 
> have the time nor the money to make a trip to Tennessee. So, 
> that option is closed at this time. 
> Thank you so much for letting me say my piece. I just want peace and 
> harmony to reign again here, and want everyone to be friends. 
> So, please, peace, peace everyone. Thank you so much. 
> 
> Sincerely, 
> 
> Karla Williams 
> karfranw at juno.com 
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